There’s been a video bouncing around my social media circles that criticizes women’s self-defense courses for making things too comfortable for their students, at the cost of realism and safety. It’s a good argument, and a real problem. All too often I see videos for self-defense techniques that rely on a compliant or practically inert opponent to succeed — the kind of attacker who grabs their victim and then patiently stands still and waits for a complex series of 8 strikes to land. Or, even worse, I see courses that advertise the fact that students will not be stressed or challenged in any way while practicing their techniques. Conversations about this problem in martial arts circles inevitably turn to the problem of realism, and how to prepare students for what actual violence looks and feels like.
I’ve had a number of people reach out to me about self-defense instruction in the past week. A frightening number, to be honest, because it betrays how unstable our sense of safety is right now — as women, LGBT folks, people of colour, and religious and political minorities. So here’s the deal: I teach self-defense at Valkyrie Western Martial Arts Assembly, and I happen to think that we are damned good at what we do.
There’s an old refrain that pops up in discussions of gender in the Historical European Martial Arts community: that running events aimed specifically at women (whether they be introductory courses, ongoing classes, or tournament categories), or modifying ones’ teaching to appeal more to women, is discriminatory. The theory goes that…
I’ve always had an arms-length relationship with Pride. As a teenager who thought she was straight, I didn’t think Pride was for me. My social circle was aggressively heterosexual and often consumed by petty teen rivalries over boys, and we saw Pride parades as cool things happening somewhere outside of…
This is one of the hardest things I’ve ever written. It’s not just an exorcism, but an admission. Yes, I am angry. I get so angry sometimes that I don’t know how to handle it, and bottling it up and pushing it aside is literally destroying me. I have been so afraid of my anger, and so unwilling to acknowledge that it even exists, that I’ve been letting it keep me awake at night, undermine my relationships, and tip me over into the killing blankness of depression rather than showing anyone that it’s there.
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about “safe spaces”. Between constant articles about coddled university students who want to be protected at all costs from the real world, a recent blowup in the online HEMA community about letting Neo-Nazis air their views in martial arts forums, and the needs I’ve…
Mild rockiness continues, as I didn’t quite make it to 7 photos this past week. Still, I’m making progress, and I like the opportunity that this project is giving me to reflect on the positive bits of my life. If this set is any indication, lighting and landscape continue to be big influences, and important opportunities to stop, breathe, and enjoy the moment.
The beginning of the year tends to be a dark time for me, and writing and other creative work don’t come easily. In an effort to keep regularly producing something, I’ve set myself a simple task: take one photo a day of something that makes me happy. I’ll be collecting these pictures weekly and posting them here.
The week after our women’s rapier workshop, I had the privilege of attending a self-defense workshop hosted by Ed Wong, of Urban Survival Systems. Ed is an accomplished martial artist in a number of Southeast Asian arts, especially Silat and Ikatan Kali. These days, much of his focus is on street-level combat and tactics, and he runs some amazing classes and workshops through USS. This one was an intense 3-hour introduction to surviving a mass attack.
For the past couple of weeks, I’ve had a bunch of post ideas bouncing around the back of my head, and no time to actually sit down and write. I should be annoyed – especially since it’s so important to build regular habits on a new blog – but it’s hard to complain when I look at what I’ve been up to in the meantime. This hasn’t been a time for writing, but it’s been perfect for other new creative projects, and some real martial arts and pedagogical high points.